The decision should be mine, not ours

My boyfriend wants his parents and siblings to visit the baby at the hospital, but I am not comfortable with his family visiting for a few reasons. I’m comfortable with mine, but I feel there shouldn’t be special treatment to my side either, so I don’t want any visitors.

I mentioned to my family member about how my boyfriend wants visitors and I don’t. They are telling me that his input matters too because he is the dad, and it has to be equal. Maybe I’m TA, but I feel that as long as I am carrying this baby and recover from delivery, equality is not a thing. It is fine to consider my partner’s wants, but I feel the decision should be mine at the end of the day… and it’s not like our baby would be interested in seeing anyone but me… I’m tired of the equality card being used against me when I’m the one going through it. Equality does not exist during pregnancy.

Edit: Thank you to everyone that commented. I did not expect this post to get the attention that it did, but I really appreciate the input everyone gave, in my favor or not.

I have always included my boyfriend in every decision you can think of in this pregnancy and have even included both our moms in some ultrasounds that are over the belly. This was the one thing we didn’t agree on. My intention is always to be as fair as possible in the pregnancy and in parenting, but when it comes to my medical state, I feel it is a different story. Parenting and pregnancy are both very different things. The pregnancy/birthing process is not and will never be equal, and I will always stand by that belief.

All that being said, I had a discussion with my boyfriend on it. He did some research himself as well. He said he understands if no visitors are allowed, which makes me feel so relieved, because I am so scared for the birth experience. We do not know what to expect, as this is our first pregnancy. We decided to play by ear based on my comfort, and I am pretty sure we probably won’t decide if we want visitors until we are experiencing the whole thing as it happens. In the event that we have visitors, we will have general rules for them as well. I am grateful for my boyfriend’s excitement, support and involvement in this pregnancy. He will be an amazing father.