OP wonders if she's TA after her husband gets her a bra that's too big for her

**I am not OP. This is a repost sub.**

Mood spoiler: >!Infidelity!<

Original post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/wk4y9i/aita\_for\_getting\_angry\_at\_my\_husband\_for\_getting/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/wk4y9i/aita_for_getting_angry_at_my_husband_for_getting/)

English is not my first language and I am writing this rather angry so sorry for any mistakes.

A little background. I, F29, have always been a rather skinny person, size 00 with barely (read none) existent curves so to say, I don't wear a bra for the lack of need, but when I do need it would be some AA bralette and call it a day. Recently I got to know I have somewhat serious medical issues and I needed to start hormonal therapy. Most likely I will gain weight, which doesn't bother me that much, I just want to be healthy again, but I did start feeling a little insecure not only with potential weight gain but with already starting to see some side effects on my skin, hair and generally I am just moodier.

My husband Jeremy, M34, has been nothing but really supportive, he is very understanding with my current moods and goes out of his way to compliment me and get me to feel better, like saying that there will be just more of me to love, or that I will look beautiful no matter what.

And now onto the story that got me feeling really mad and upset at Jeremy. Sometimes he needs to travel for work for a few days, this time as he came back usual stuff proceeded, I went to wash his clothes from the weekender bag and found an obvious pink bag, inside which I found a really pretty set of lingerie, with the bra cup size C. I was really confused and asked him about it. Jeremy then tells me that he knows I been feeling insecure about potential weight gain and wanted to surprise me that there are good things in every size. I don't know it just made me very upset, like most likely my breast wouldn't even grow to that size, like why on earth would he buy a bra for me 4 sizes larger, like he has some kind of expectations of how my body should look like, I just don't know. He says I am being emotional and overreacting and if I don't like it, he will just take it back, that he wanted to make me feel better, and instead, I am just throwing a strop at him.

So AITA for not appreciating a wrong bra size even if it was with good intentions?

Top comment:

>NTA

>And hon, that bra wasn’t for you that’s just his cover story.

*Additional edit to include a relevant comment from OP after a commenter asks if the lingerie still had tags attached:*

>Yep, there were tags, brand new and extremely nice. The money have been a little tight lately and this set is really out of our budget, it’s like really nice, too nice. And it was hidden in his bag, his clothes were wrapped around it. He said he wanted to gift it over the dinner if I didn’t go through his bag immediately, which tbh I usually don’t do but leave it till the next day.

**UPDATE**, posted as an edit on the original post.

Edit: this post been up for about an hour but the majority of comments are saying he could been cheating on me and it wasn’t meant for me. I been so wrapped up with my body image and insecurity I haven’t thought about it. To make me feel better, I went on his computer to see iMessages and yep. He has a C cup on the side. Gonna wait for him to come home and talk about it, I don’t know what people do. Feel empty. This discussion is over, thank you all

*OP says she won't be updating further, so I'm marking this as concluded.*

*Edit: posted via mobile so the formatting got wonky. Fixed. Please let me know if you have any additional feedback, this is my first post here.*

**UPDATE #2**

*This update was quoted frequently in the comments here but I figure I'd include the further update here to avoid an additional post when so many commenters had already seen/shared it already. For cohesion and completeness, I'm putting it below.*

Edit2: So I left it yesterday as an open ending as needed to collect my thoughts and understand the next steps, but as I logged in now I received many nice messages and comments, and honestly I am very grateful to you all.

To all wondering what happened after yesterday, we have decided that divorce is the only option. Sadly my "thoughtful and understanding" husband fell out of love with me a few years ago and didn't want to hurt me by telling me that. It sucks but things happen and life goes on. I will travel to stay with my family in another country for a few months to get myself together and proceed with a divorce. Jeremy and I have decided to split semi-amicably and I am looking forward to all that is to come with my AA cups and 3 beautiful dogs that I am keeping.

As I wrote my AITA about the bra, that's the last thing I thought would happen - that strangers on the Internet would know something I didn't even have a single thought about. So I guess thanks for that.

*Final thoughts: my heart goes out to OP. Finding out your partner is cheating is bad enough, but to find out from reddit seems, to me, to add to the pain. At least she found out now rather than later. I am glad she is making space in her life for new love, be it toward herself and/or another (better) partner, and wish her the best. She deserves so much more than that guy.*

*Again, I'm sorry for the delay in updating this post. In the future, feel free to make a new BORU post with a new update; no need to wait for me. Thanks to everyone who commented and PMd about the new update.*