The player who plays well always loses. The player who does nothing all game always wins. How does this stop?

Every EDH game I play, the player who does the worst, interacts the least, and durdles the most ends up winning. Even my friends' strongest and most annoying decks tend to lose because the other players 3v1 them - it's not just me. The instant anyone gets any sort of advantage, the other 3 players absolutely shotgun every boardwipe and removal they have on them. This makes games take forever, and it also means that the person who ends up winning doesn't usually do much to actually win. They happen to have a higher life total and more resources because they play a greedy mana curve, or just because they had a rough start. Even faster decks fold to 1v3. The majority of my wins are because I sandbagged for an hour or more of real time until removals were used up. This is never fun.

Does this happen to anyone else? I love playing EDH, but constant boardwipes and super-aggressive whack-a-mole removal means that doing nothing is objectively the best strategy a lot of the time (b2-3 games). It's beginning to make me feel like decisions matter very little, and it's all about looking like a smol bean. Having a decent engine or the biggest creature tends to mean that everyone swings their entire board at you all game. Is there a way to combat this? Or is it just the nature of lower power games?