Am I Jewish? To who? For what? Why?

My mother is 100% Jewish, Ashkenazi, of Romanian/Hungarian descent. (They fled to Germany due to antisemitism, went whoops, and then came to the US.) She is related to some politically prominent Jews in the US. She has had absolutely no contact with any sort of Jewish community since she was a teenager, now in her 70s.

My father is of 100% Scottish descent (he was a first generation American, born from two Scottish parents who had just moved from Scotland.) He learned Hebrew to get closer to my mom while they were dating.

My mother did not tell me she was Jewish until I was 17 years old, right before I went to college. When she married my father, long before my birth, the entire community (family, and Jewish community in Levittown) essentially excommunicated her, and she hasn't had any contact with her family since her father passed away. Her reasoning about never telling me was "I didn't want you to have to deal with all of that". In hindsight, I was pretty oblivious, although I will say the ethnic intricacies of growing up on Long Island shielded me from what would have been a no-brainer anywhere else in the US. She looks like and talks like Fran Drescher (and like her, we're from Flushing, Queens).

I have never celebrated a Jewish holiday, but have celebrated many Christmases. I have never been to temple, save for two friends' Bar Mitzvahs. I am uncircumsized. I've never read a word of Jewish text outside of the Hebrew Bible. Both my parents behaved and spoke like philosophical atheists while growing up, although in his later years my father has become a prominent member of the Episcopalian church, while my Jewish mother is almost entire a-religious.

I have a close friend. He's kind of dumb, but a sweet kid, just oblivious. A long long time ago out of the blue I once asked him, "hey, what's your thoughts on Jews?" His response was, "I dunno. I don't know much about them. I've heard they're greedy?" I then told him I was Jewish, and his response was, "what? That doesn't make sense then, you're the most generous, giving dude I've ever met, that's crazy".

Recently we hung out for the first time in a long while, and after talking about his (terrible) podcast choices (Joe Rogan, Theo Von), he suddenly asked out of nowhere, "Oh, yo, dude - what's up with everyone hating Jews all of a sudden? It's crazy! I'm like, bro, what?"

Who thinks I'm Jewish? Would all factions of Judaism essentially consider me a lapsed Jew? Nazis certainly would think I am. Would all other Jews? I'm middle aged and my entire life experience has been completely secular, as I'm not religious in any form or function, nor do I identify really with any particular ethnic group (besides thinking, I guess, I'm Romanian and Scottish). The current political climate begs choosing a "faction" above all else.

I've lived all over the US. In my work life, I've been singled out by a couple of Jews as Jewish, without me saying a single word about it, just based on how I look, and it's seemed like they've definitely had a preference point for working with me (i.e., Jewish coworker friend who just moved to new job tries to get me hired on, this has happened a few times).

Everything is so strange now, and it's something that I thought I could get away with ignoring, but that no longer seems to be the case. The world has decided that this is a big deal, and I live in this world.