32F who likes to party...and I'm "supposed the settle down"?!

In response to the shut-in who judges Millennials who enjoy having fun, I need to vent.

Like most of you, I have a full-time job and bills to pay. I also don't have kids because, funny enough, I want to enjoy my life and not saddle myself with unnecessary responsibility. (Those of you being happy parents, good for you! It's not for me.)

A few months ago I hosted a tie-dye party with friends at my house. I had a hard lemonade that someone brought over, and my husband LOST IT.

Over the course of several weeks I've learned that he has been expecting me to "settle down" and "stop partying" and is angry that I can't read his mind and become 100% sober just because he can't drink anymore (medical issues).

There's a lot more to the story, and we're getting divorced over all the issues, but this was just so triggering.

I'm only 32! I work hard during the week! I volunteer at community events and food pantries and donate to Planned Parenthood and my local elementary school every year! I do all of our taxes because "it's too hard and you're better at it!" (Yes, he mastered weaponized incompetence.) And yet when I want to have a party at my house, I need to "settle down"?

*Why the fuck should I stop having fun just because I'm in my thirties?!?*

I had super strict parents, and had to sneak out and lie to go to birthday parties! I'm older and able to enjoy myself responsibly now.

Just because some people (my soon-to-be ex) were getting wasted and going to raves in high school and early 20s and are now too physically messed up to enjoy themselves doesn't make me a "crazy party girl who needs to settle down already".

I have a quote that I keep in my work office: "I don't worry about getting old. I worry about getting boring."

Last night I did a ghost walk in town and chatted with friends until almost midnight. Someone *please* explain to me why enjoying these kinds of activities is "crazy party girl" behavior.

Rant over.