anyone else have "woke" parents who weren't supportive when you came out. (16 mtf)

my parents seemed fairly supportive, mom openly supports trans people and dad's from texas but views it as mostly harmless and say's that he has no way of knowing what it's like so he might as well be supportive. their both left wing, ex-christians turned buddhist, and treat other trans people really well i previously came out as gay and they did not care at all.

when i came out as trans, i was expecting the same kind of support. i came out two weeks after first thinking i might be trans, and they seemed supportive before i told them how long it had been. i thought they would probably be better if i came out a second time a few months later, i tried three months after but couldn't do if for eight months before finally working up the courage to come out again to mom. she say'd "i'll be honest, i don't think you'll be this way in fifty years". she also used the fact that politics are terrible for trans people right now as a reason for me to just shut up and get back in the closet (said a bit more gently).

she say'd her and dad will to try not to miss gender me, but dad still uses he/him, and mom calls me by name. i can't think of any reason for her to call me by name besides not being comfortable with trans people, while also not wanting to offend me, it's almost worse than he/him.

its been over a year and i still haven't talked to them again. i don't know what to do i don't know what they think, i found mom reading two books "the transgender teenager", and "when kids say their trans". one is really supportive, the other is transphobic. how am i supposed to convince them i'm trans without knowing what they think, some how they accept other trans people but not me, so what is it.

have any of you had similar experiences, if so; what helped them start to accept you.