Wife got emergency surgery, 2yo saw it all

Hey folks, So my wife cut herself pretty bad, meaning that we had to get her to the hospital for emergency care. They forgot to call us to let us know the time of surgery, so we had to rush again to the hospital when the surgeon called.

I got a 2yo and a 8mo baby, meaning that I had to take care of my bleeding wife, get my eldest to dress up, dress my youngest and drive to the hospital. Same scenario the next day for surgery.

My 2yo was AMAZING during those trying times. He was helpful, remained calm, and listened to everything I said. I am so proud.

But now, my wife has been in remission for the past week, and it has been hard. 2yo clearly was affected by the events. He now seeks both comfort and confrontation, not listening to anything I am saying.

But I am now the sole able-bodied parent, cook, financial provider, cleaner. And it will be this way for the next few weeks at least!

I really am trying to give him the comfort that he seeks. I take time alone with him, cheer him up, speak with him of the events and everything else.

But sometimes, shit's gotta get done! I have to go to wake them up, prepare them, get them to daycare, work, cook, get them back home, bath, nigjttime routine, and cleaning when thwy are asleep. Ans taking care of the baby, who was forcefully removed from breastfeeding, has been kinda tough.

My approach so far has been to comfort, but to stay strict when it comes to doing things he gotta do. I thought "forcing" him in the same "structure" as he is used to would be easier. But I cannot be the sole provider of hugs and arms, I have so much to do!

What other approaches could I try? Thank you!!!

***Wife still provides comfort and fullfills her parental role, she just cannot DO anything that involves using her hand.