Your “archetype” aka what category you fall into upon first glance is the most important thing for attraction, for both genders.

By archetype I mean, like, “stereo type+vibe+aesthetic” and what category that places you into.

For example, the “girl next door” “the thug” “the rockstar” “the emo guy” “horse girl” “short guy with muscles” “rave girl” etc etc.

You have to curate your own archetype and polish your own vibe into almost a character that other people can recognize.

You ever explain to someone “yea I saw this girl, she’s like the animal loving, artist barista. She’s so cute i can’t stop thinking about her”

It’s because of what her archetype is, and you like it.

As a guy, there’s lowkey less archetypes than women, and most guys actively trying to get with women try to be the same archetype, and that’s basically “successful, cool and collected and suave guy”.

Think about what archetype you want to be most, build that, and then women will at least be able to say “oh he’s the guitar playing cowboy” rather than “he’s the plain guy that I cannot categorize” and you’ll have a lot more success.