UPDATE: Called cps and now admin is calling me into the office

Original post TLDR: Admin is pissed that I called cps and I received an email reminding me they explicitly told me to hold off on calling and they want to have a conversation about it tomorrow.

Honestly I feel like I’ve aged 100 years in the past couple of weeks lol I didn’t want to update right away as I just needed to decompress and talk to my therapist and loved ones. I am insanely grateful for all the advice, support, reassurance, validation and encouragement I received over the past couple of weeks from literally everyone - educators of reddit and loved ones alike. Thank you ❤️

I heeded everyone’s advice and got ALL of my shit in order. The meeting ended up getting pushed by a few days so that my union rep could touch base with my admin - kind of gauging whether she needed to be there (schedule conflicts made this a barrier) or if it would be sufficient to have the building rep instead. We went with the building rep. My admin backtracked SO quickly in his tone. He gave me immense praise to start and reassured he had no intention to discipline me. Of course, he shouldn’t have said what he said in the first place - HR has already been contacted regarding this. Most of the meeting was spent with him talking, not mentioning the ridiculous protocol they initially brought up (lol wonder why /s). He did ask why I didn’t tell anyone else to which I responded with, “I can’t control who decides to be honest in any given moment. All I can do is be honest.”I was candid in the meeting with my admin about my feelings about the unnecessary need to lie but nonetheless, I will remain a professional, and the fact that this child’s parent was probably never going to change nor was she our biggest fan to begin with.

Some follow up: We (as the school) are getting responses from the child’s parent - which is a huge difference from the radio silence. The neglect surrounding their hygiene has improved. There are some new health concerns, but the family and staff are taking it much more seriously. That all said, I am preparing as many resources for the student while I look for another job. I love my job and more than that, I love my students. I wrote in my initial post that I am just a para. Some of you were kind enough to remind me the importance of that role. Without getting into it, I have forgotten that because of the way my lead teacher treats me. It’s been this way for a while now and I am not the only staff who gets treated poorly by this teacher - just one of the more severe. HR is going to hear a lot from me in the next couple of weeks lol

Thank you all again ❤️ be well and have a drink for me

TLDR: after a bajillion years, I finally feel like I have some clarity. Meeting with admin was fine, hr contacted, child’s well-being improved and resume has been dusted off.