Abusive men describe the benefits of violence

https://voicemalemagazine.org/abusive-men-describe-the-benefits-of-violence/

All these "when you do x, I feel blah blah" statements and "communicate more" *doesn't work* on men who benefit from abusing you. There are just so many reasons to keep abusing you. They've already proven they don't care about your feelings. They don't want to inspire admiration, respect, loyalty or love from a woman. They want fear, anxiety, obligation, guilt, obedience and silence.

The abuse that day isn't a whim, a mistake, or a reaction to something you did. It's an intentional, deliberate, ongoing pattern with a goal.

Notice when they're asked what it would take to make them stop, *none* of them answered that they finally got it, they regret emotionally harming their partners, they understand now, they're grateful to have it explained to them properly and they'll stop out of remorse.

It's not a matter of "not getting it" or "the right words to unlock his understanding".

They're all well aware that only real and harsh consequences will make them stop. And even then, they'll go right back to it as soon as they get home.

Nothing stops the abuse except leaving.