I realize why I have a crush on an ACE dude

Well I just spilled my heart out to my friend. I’ve had a crush on him for a couple months. He is charming, fun, so friendly and caring. I truly love hanging out with him. I thought he felt the same way as I did, but it turns out he is asexual.

I’ll be okay. I gotta lick my wounds a little bit, and process, but I realize why I was/am so attracted to him. It’s because he sees me as a person, not as a means to sex, or as a mommy replacement. He just truly enjoys my company and sees me as his equal. It’s been SO refreshing. He isn’t even my type usually, but I found I was so into him and this must be why.

I don’t even know what the point of this post is, I guess I’m just processing my disappointment.

Sigh

Edit: thank you for all the encouraging and kind comments. Just to clear up, I do believe he is aro as well, as he said he’s never wanted to be with anyone in a relationship. If he wanted a non-sexual relationship, I would be more than down! I know we’ll continue to be friends, I do value his presence in my life, a lot.

Someone pointed out ace isn’t an acronym, and i would change it, but it’s in the title. My apologies!

Edit 2: normally I would *never* post a second edit, but this post has gotten a lot of traffic, so I thought I’d say that we chatted today and cleared the air, and are back to being friends that hyper focus on our shared hobby :) Knowing his orientation helped my brain recontextualize our interactions as platonic. He’s wonderful, and I’m so grateful to be his friend 💙