My uber PIMI sister’s daughter has now declared she’s out. That’s both of her kids now.

My sister is one of those super obedient JWs, who will be there to the bitter end, either hers or the Borgs. Her son never really believed, declaring that at age 13, it suddenly dawned upon him that everybody around him was taking the whole thing very seriously. He had thought from a young age that it was just a club telling silly stories. He never got baptised and left as soon as practical at about 21, when he could leave home. My sister took it terribly, with the normal reaction of begging, tears, emotional manipulation for 6 weeks solid. Then she just stopped and effectively started some mild shunning/distancing behaviour.

So, her daughter remained in and was a fully baptised and obedient JW. My family and I are non JWs so we’re effectively shunned/ ignored. She was always linked in the congregation to a man 10 years older, which was extremely weird when she was 16 years old. Lo and behold, she engaged in a fully weird relationship with him at age 19/20 and married at 21. Our side of the family couldn’t believe it but had no say in the matter and we were being ignored in any case.

The marriage was a disaster, virtually from day one, no surprise. It was clear she was deeply unhappy and it became an ongoing saga, within the family. It was clear that it wouldn’t last but non JWs have no say in JW matters. Eventually the dam broke and the inevitable split came. This was just before Covid and we had not heard anything since. This week we heard that she had finally declared that she was out of the cult. She had approached elders during her marriage and no help was forthcoming. It made her question if she had any friends in the Borg at all, and it all became crystal clear that they were just simple human beings, that really didn’t want to help at all and had no useful experience or advice on the matter.

So that’s that. At 30 years old and born-in to a super PIMI, she’s out. Unfortunately, she’s burnt virtually every bridge in our family, so there is virtually no relationship there and very little of any relationship to recover. It’s all come a bit late for that but now means that my PIMI sister is handling the loss of both of her kids from the Borg. I would be fascinated to know how she is handling it but I have no relationship with her, so will probably never know. I could never have believed this 10 years ago, given the hold the Borg had over the family back then.