Why does everyone think I'm talking about them?

Me: Yeah, so the male scientific establishment back in like, the Victorian era to the 1930s created some self-aggrandizing myths to minimize women.

Them: SO U HATE MEN AND MASCULINITY?!1!?!1? THIS IS WHY FEMINISM IS BAD!

Me: So, because gender is a social construct, trans people get socialized differently in childhood than cis people--

Them: DON'T YOU TELL ME MY LIFE MY MOM LET ME WEAR DRESSES!

Like, not every fucking thing anyone ever says is about *you personally*. What the fuck, I swear I remember a time when people were capable of realizing that. Is it bad reading comprehension from our shitty school system? Is it insecurity? Self-absorption?