Social benefits of not drinking

I haven’t posted here since shortly after my decision to abstain from alcohol due to a serious underlying health condition. I do read posts in this sub every day, though, and I try to comment when appropriate. One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of newcomers worry about losing the social benefits that drinking can sometimes provide. I understand and recognize the validity of that fear. However, I wanted to offer a different perspective based on the experiences I’ve had over the last few months.

I have noticed a distinctive change in my emotional reaction in the aftermath of social events. I recently went to a wedding, advised a group of students (I’m a university professional), and served as a “coach” for a youth chess club. After each of these events I noticed a distinctive feeling of warmth and goodwill. It is an incredibly rewarding feeling.

I really don’t recall experiencing this indelible feeling of goodness I’ve felt recently. It has made me actually seek out more opportunities like these. So, rather than missing out on social activities, I’ve discovered that I am actually doing more with others than ever before, and feeling much, much better in the aftermath.

If you worry about the social effects of ceasing alcohol consumption, please consider what I’ve described in the above lines. This very well could happen to you, too. And I can guarantee you will enjoy it.