The more I improve my looks and hustle the less I appeal to customers.

I know there’s nothing yall can do to help me I just need to vent 😭 I been dancing 3 years. And my first year and a half dancing I was a little heavier and my outfits and makeup definitely gave baby stripper. I also drank more back then and was sorta insecure.

Ive been working out consistently since Feb 2023 and have toned up a lot , I’ve went platinum blonde, my outfits and makeup are higher quality and I feel the need to drink less and feel very confident now. I have taken up hobbies, and I even started modeling this year and one of my shoots got published ! I’m really happy in my life. But my work life is struggling

I feel the best I’ve ever been but men seem to not like me anymore. When I say “like” I mean they choose me less and approach me less . I’m told by customers a lot I’m so beautiful “but I know I can’t afford whatever you’re looking for”. I like to look glamorous at work but a lot of people are automatically writing me off because it looks “too expensive”. Even when I push past that and go out of my way to be approachable and friendly it’s met with defensiveness and disbelief I would “ever talk to them” so they literally just brush me off. I’m constantly getting negged. I’ve had men refuse to tip me because “I know you make enough you probably make all the money in here already” And when groups come in , female customers constantly prevent men in their group from picking me or tipping me on stage.

My look and vibe always does well with rich customers, traveling businessmen and older men but they are coming in less and less at my club :(. And the clientele is becoming more party goer , blue collar , middle class men and they don’t like me. And if it’s a blue collar/ party crowd they won’t get dances or rooms with me because “I already know I’m not gonna get what I want from you and you’re gonna charge way too much for what I want” even before I start listing prices 💀

I know it’s not necessarily me , they’re just looking to find the easiest dancer they can manipulate into doing more for less and they can look at me off rip and realize that won’t work on me but it’s getting so draining 😭 I don’t wanna switch home clubs because it’s the busiest club in my city because our club scene over here is dwindling.