Self Care and Time Off Following a Traumatic Event

I’m posting this while still processing so bear with me.

This incident didn’t happen at the club. It happened in my personal life on Tuesday night. The magnitude of the situation hasn’t even fully hit me yet, and although it was violent I’m okay.

But the environment in the club is not where I want to be right now, even though it’s the holidays and the cash is definitely needed. I don’t think I can even pretend to be sexy or flirtatious or nice to any man that has any desire to put his hands on me right now. And there’s an extremely good possibility that I would get straight up black out drunk if I were to go in because that’s one of my piss-poor coping mechanisms when I’m peak stressed at work but don’t want to be there.

So even though I skipped last night, I’m skipping tonight as well, I never work Friday’s, and I have plans on Saturday, so that’s that.

I’m giving myself 5 days to heal and reset and return to the club once I’m (hopefully) in a better head space.

It’s so much easier to compartmentalize one’s personal life problems when you work a vanilla job. At least in my experience. This gig asks so much more of us however that it’s important to listen to our bodies and our minds and hold space for ourselves when necessary.

I hope everyone going in tonight makes their bag, but don’t feel pressured to go in if you need to take a mental health day (or 5!) yourself. <3