Submissiveness tokens, the return! (aka showing mine off to everyone)

Hello again!

You might have seen my post [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/submissive/comments/kjv4r4/how_do_you_symbolise_your_very_own_submissiveness/) about symbolising your own submissive nature (as opposed to your relationship and its possible collar) using some kind of mark like jewelry or tattoos. So this is the sequel! The word that came to mind for those was "tokens" (of submissiveness), and u/subJectKez used it the same way in the comments, so now I call them that. Well, I have gone and done it: ever since Christmas, I have started wearing a ring as my token! And I feel like telling all about it, to celebrate, get your feedback and ideas, and maybe even inspire someone who would like to do the same.

Wearing this reminder turned out very important to me. I have a really hard time keeping in mind that my submissiveness is all coming from me, not from the power of a dominant. I get easily scared of losing my freedom and my sense of self to someone else when I am dommed long-term, as my emotions don't have an easy grip on the idea that I'm the one yearning for this and growing from it. I can even get grim and ashamed, or feel weak, or sick, for my submissive desires. So I'm slowly soothing this, getting my bearings and learning that it's perfectly fine, and most of all, *safe* to feel. Cherishing this side of me is one of the things I put my best efforts towards, and wearing a trinket that highlights it, about me, not about the one who dominates me, gives me immense peace of mind and tremendously encourages my own acceptance for what I love. [Here's my token](https://i.postimg.cc/BQDLRSHb/Limering-ne.jpg), a green translucent ring that never leaves my hand anymore!

So let me tell you all about it :D It's marbled and shimmery like a gem, but is actually a cheap toy-ring that I pulled from the stash of things I had as a little kid. In fact, beyond being sentimental, it matters that it's only plastic. It keeps it down to earth, and feels opposed to the pompous seriousness involved in a lot of BDSM talk. Those things scare me, and feel like the ritualistic aspects take a life of their own that goes beyond the happiness of either partner. To each their kink of course! But I love my toy-ring with all my heart, because I live for games and experiences, and it's simply wholesome to be reminded there's so much beauty and passion and involvement in genuine, spontaneous, light-hearted fun. In a way, it makes everything more authentic to me.

Those childhood rings I had came in several other colours, like white, purple and pale blue, but I picked it green because the way it lights up makes it look like the translucent inside of a lime. That's my BDSM name, and I got it by myself! It comes from older screennames, and ultimately, I had picked "lime" for them because of the sheer joy it brings me. It's a fruit that's so fresh, so clean, stimulating and fun, and it has the colour of spring (and also evil magic, which is pretty spooky so I like it :p). Lime goes in party drinks, and feels just like me! Now I can wear it on my hand.

I chose the middle finger not to flip off my worries, *although I just might*, but because of its symbolism. It's everything I needed. Being in the middle, it stands for balance. It is apparently associated with development and stability. Some people even wear rings there meant to reduce their anxiety. It felt like the ideal proper place for something that simply speaks about oneself, and preserves it.

And it's even more invisible than a necklace day collar. Nobody will ever know. Except absolutely everyone on this subreddit.

Would you want to do something like that yourself? I've seen on the original post that some people already have their tokens, as other types of jewelry, bdsm accessories, or even keychain ornaments! I'm gonna tag u/likenothingis, who enjoyed the idea of tokens in the first place.

I hope you liked it! <3