Finally stood up for myself

After months of lying, cheating, and blame-shifting (this time—he's done this countless times before), I finally became so angry that I was DONE. I went to court and filed a small claims case against him for the almost $4k he owed me. He kept saying, "I told you I'd pay you back when I get out of this hole." (He's NEVER out of any hole.) I was done with his words never being backed by actions. He didn't come to court (shocker) and thought he was so smart—called the court and told the judge he "had to work" (the judge was unimpressed and gave me a default judgment). I then proceeded to garnish his bank accounts and put a lien on his property. All of his accounts froze and he couldn't use them—including the "feeder" accounts he used with his ex-wife to pay child support, mortgage, etc. I have since made a relationship with his ex-wife (via email) and she was telling me the accounts were frozen (he doesn’t know we talk). The ex-wife was texting him, telling him to "fix this. You're still months behind on child support and now the accounts are frozen."

Well, cheater boy drove to the courthouse yesterday and dropped off a cashier's check. Guess it wasn’t fun having locked accounts and your ex-wife and ex-GF all screaming at you via text or email for being a derelict loser. I’m sure his new AP or his enabling mommy loaned him the money. What a loser. I hope it was his AP, so now he can ruin her life like he does everyone else’s.

I am proud of myself. Even though, when the court called to tell me he'd gone up there and paid, I sat on the couch and cried. I never wanted any of this—I wanted a partner who loved me as much as I loved him, who was a functioning adult, who wouldn't dream of doing the horrible things he's done to me (I never would've hurt him like this—ever).

Oh well—I'm almost $4k richer, he's $4k in debt to someone else (not me), and I'm free of a 250-pound parasite.