Tier 3 behaviors in class. Admin, "Have you tried to not push them away and meet them half way?"

Venting: I know this has been addressed here ad nauseum.

I had a class with 2 boys who were solid Tier 3 behavior. This triggers the students who follow in behaviors to act out. Every teacher referred these students for behavior intervention after many calls home and Tier 1/2 interventions. Brand new principal at check out interview, "There are some students that will push harder if you are firm. Have you tried to not push them away and meet them halfway?"

Mind you, these 7th grade boys were caught calling the schools custodian the N word, dancing on desks, throwing spit wads at other kids, yelling out in class, mad dogging teachers, showing aggressive behaviors, vandalizing desks and classroom materials, the list goes on. 😮‍💨 They test at a first grade level and have a sub 1 GPA.

I just completed my 19th year teaching and am so happy they are gone. I've only had a handful of students like that in my years of teaching, but for an admin to even ask me that question was beyond offensive. I am hired to teach subject matter, not be an intervention counselor. The entire thing is just so infuriating.