X570 Aorus Elite XMP BIOS RESET

I really am lost, it's been going on for a while now and I've just had enough at this point, I have no idea what the hell is going on.

Turning XMP on works, I'll save and exit bios, use my computer, play games, everything is stable until I turn off my computer fully (restarting works fine) then immediately it'll go to a long boot, restart twice and the bios will be reset, comes up with reset message when entering.

I've looked online, seen others with the same motherboard say they upped the SOC voltage to 1.2 and dram to 1.4, it did no difference to anything for me.

I had 4 sticks of 8gb, I've systemically gone through each stick, 1 of my ports seems to have issues, it's the first slot 1, so I've tested each port with 1 stick and found the others work fine, 1 just didn't work with XMP enabled at all, it rebooted multiple times then went into Windows without any XMP enabled and bios was reset...

Since then I've resorted to 16gb dual channel with slot 2 and 4, it boots with XMP but resets....done the same thing with the voltages.

Things I've done to check some stuff off

I've updated motherboard, it's on the latest one.

Ran memtest86 with XMP enabled for 4 hours with no errors.

Manually set the memory speed to 3600, also tried 3466, no difference.

Tried to look for this level 3 memory option, it doesn't seem to exist on my board (makes it 3600mhz)

My specs are

5800x ryzen

X570 Aorus elite

F4-3600c16d-16gtzr 8gb sticks X4 but currently using 2