My trip was ruined by a breakup text from my girlfriend.
Me M(26) currently on a solo trip to Tirana, and my ~~girlfriend~~ ex F(23) just sent me a long text breaking up with me. This isn’t the first time she’s done this. A few months ago, she pulled something similar and ended up taking a one-week break. She came back crying and begging me to take her back but I made it clear that if she ever broke up with me or pulled this again that would be it and she’d lose me forever. Yesterday my trip to Tirana started, and right from the beginning things felt off. Texted I was about to take off - no response, also texted that I’ve landed but still no response, The airport cab that picked me up had a different plate than what was shown on the app so I shared my live location with her just in case, but she never checked in or responded.
When I finally got to my Airbnb, I called her to let her know I made it safely. She ignored the call and texted back saying she was out with her friend and couldn't talk, but would call when she got home. I stayed up until 11:30 PM waiting, but heard nothing. She called the next morning. After we caught up, I asked how she was doing and asked about why she was so distant the night before. She immediately got defensive, said she was stressed, and when I asked if we were okay, she said, "what do you think? I don't want to talk about this right now."
I was tired from traveling and wanted to start exploring, so I gave her space. Then around 6:00 PM, she sent a massive text ending things blaming her mental health, anxiety, and trauma. She said she isn't in a place to build anything stable with anyone, but offered to talk in person when I get back to end on a good note, though making it clear the breakup is final. It hurts, but I’m keeping my word. I don’t think I’m going to see her wen I’m back or reply. She knew what would happen if she did this again, I think I’m just going to focus on my trip, meet new people, and move on.
**UPDATE**: Thank you everyone for the suggestions, I decided not to respond back at least until after my trip. But I got a message from her 48hrs later“I just wanna say looking back I’m sorry for texting this especially while you’re away - this is not the way I should have done that - I’m sorry genuinely” I’m still going ghost tbh until the trip is over.
**FINAL UPDATE**: This is my final update on this as it’s all past now, but TL;DR she has been calling and texting saying all this is hard for her, she did this for my own good and everything reminds her of me so she’s moving houses and might even go back to her home country to stop herself from reaching out. I’ve sent my final goodbye text and wishes and blocked her as I have to keep to my words. I’ve learnt that the phrase “if you love someone sometimes you have to let them go” is very true. Thank you everyone for the support on this.