Is this typical?

Yesterday I had my first therapy session ever. Background: My dad became ill in February. I’m his primary caretaker. He’s ok on his own (lives alone) but after caring for my mom for 15 years, this is bringing up a lot of stuff. I do not like my dad, I loved my mom. There is no one else who can care for him.

My anxiety has worsened and I have OCD behaviors such as checking and ruminating. Some of it is new since taking on his care.

In my session yesterday I explained all of this in more detail. I told her my goal was to get tools to lesson the behaviors that are interfering in my life. The therapist suggested reaching out to his pharmacy to get pill packets, and logging into his health portal (already did that months ago). I wanted mental health tools, not tools for his care. Not my first rodeo, I got that covered. She proceeded to tell me about her fathers OCD (seemingly comparing to mine to show mine’s not that bad…she didn’t say that outright but that’s what I came away feeling like) and her grandfather’s abuse of her grandmother.

Is it typical for a therapist to talk about their own family history and to seemingly compare it to their patient’s experience? It felt odd. I came away feeling like she didn’t care for me and maybe didn’t think my situation was that bad. I am a strong personality, but it took a lot to get me to a place I felt I needed outside help.

I got more support talking to coworkers and reading articles. Should I find someone new or stick with her. Part of me wants to scrap therapy all together if that’s what this is.