What am I missing?

I’m a young in my late 20s in a gay relationship. It’s my first gay relationship, and we are 3 years in. The last several months have been big for me because I just came out to my parents and my grandfather passed away and I picked up old job where I get to be remote 3 days out of the week.

Here lately my partner (2 years younger than me) tells me I’m not spending enough time with him. Tonight he got upset because I “waited too late to do anything with him and that he should not have to beg to spend time with me.”

This is how today went. Work was remote from 8-5:30pm today. I made coffee, he made a nice breakfast that I thought we enjoyed. At 5:30 I said I wanted to go for a run, he didn’t want to come even though I asked because he said it looked like rain. I was fine that it might rain, and I did a 40minute run, sure enough getting stuck in the rain. I spoke to my neighbors because they’re still new to the area. I came in by this point it was 6:45-7pm. I went to the bathroom to shower, use the bathroom, take some time to do some self care trimming of facial hair. My partner comes in around 8 to ask what is taking so long, and I explained how we got up to 8pm, then we ate and had dinner together. I took a little longer to eat because I had more food than he did, I went back for more lol he goes to the couch to sleep, and while he’s sleeping I thought I was being nice by cleaning up the kitchen and putting away the leftover food. I also remembered I had to take care of some FASFA stuff that was on a tight deadline. I don’t think I could’ve put it off. By this point it’s about 10pm. He wakes up again, and is disgruntled that it got to be so late. It feels like he’s upset with me, then it pivots to that he’s not upset with me, he’s just saying that he’s upset?

Idk, I feel like I do so much for this guy, and he makes me feel like shit some days because even though in my mind I feel like I’m doing these nice things, even so much as committing that I would be out to the family by a certain point (on my own terms though, this wasn’t an ultimatum), it just feels like no matter what I do it’s never enough or I’m in the wrong.

It feels like if I’m not standing next to him he gets upset. I had laundry the other night that I wanted to get done, and he got upset because all I do are chores, but like they have to get done, someone has to do the basics like empty the trash or the cat litter. He does those things too, but yet when I do them it’s a problem because it’s time away from him?

My widowed grandmother, I wanted to visit because it had been a month since the funeral. He made me feel like I had to ask permission to just see her because he wouldn’t be there with me because I’m not out to her yet. But also right now this isn’t about me or my relationship to my partner, I just wanted to spend time and make sure she was ok.

I really don’t feel like I’m painting this in a way to make him look any kind of way, I just wanted to see if anyone else had any insight as to how I can rectify this because clearly I keep making the same mistakes… what am I missing?