Public Bathroom Phobia (& Trader Joe’s is the best!)

My 34 month old is terrified of public bathrooms. I seek out family bathrooms, show her that nothing will turn on without her knowing, reassure her, bring headphones, everything I can think of. She totally melts down upon entering. She screams like she is being beaten. It is so hard and she WILL. NOT. GO. She’ll go 6+ hours without peeing if she has to. I worry about that not being healthy and it is also honestly just so embarrassing:

Today; I came out to a huge line at Trader Joe’s on my walk of shame after trying to talk her off the ledge. We’d been at the zoo for hours before and she had the same reaction when I tried to get her to go there. If there is anything that you can recommend, I am all ears!!

On a nice, side note, though - the cashier we had at Trader Joe’s after the incident was in the line at the time. She was very sweet and told me that she understands, as a mom, and gifted me a bouquet of flowers. It was honestly so sweet and unexpected and just reminds me that toddler mom-ing can be so isolating, but there are actually so many that get it!