I’m so tired of SA/DV survivor narratives being used to justify transphobia

So I’m a bisexual cis lady who’s dealt with a pretty extensive amount of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, most of which was perpetrated by cis men but one instance of which was perpetrated by another cis woman. I live with C-PTSD and have struggled with co-morbid agoraphobia as a result of this for years.

I’m so tired of seeing the narrative that blatant transphobia should be put into policy to protect people like me. I feel like the narrative of people who’ve dealt with SA and DV has been completely co-opted by TERFS.

Bisexual women are one of the highest risk populations for DV and SA. Bisexual people women were also frequently targeted by TERFs and other arseholes for “seeking attention” or “faking” back in the 00s and earlier. Lots of L/G folk, wanted to remove us from the LGBT+ community. It’s the same narrative that’s now being applied to a lot of trans people, particularly those who are AFAB.

I, and many other cis women who’ve dealt with DV/SA, feel a hell of a lot safer around trans people than we do around TERFs, “gender critical” types, and general bigots. It’s absolutely disgraceful that our experiences have been appropriated by socially right-wing politicians to disenfranchise you all further. That’s not even to mention the large number of trans people who have dealt with SA/DV themselves!

It’s my city’s Pride event this weekend and I just want to express solidarity with you all. I know that lots of cis people are angry and are pushing back against this “pRoTeCt WoMeN” shite that’s being spouted at the moment.