Ghosting

Anyone else go on a date, the other person seems interested/sometimes very interested and then they just ignore you when you ask them out again? Like when someone I'm not interested in messages me asking to meet again I tell them I'm not interested and the reason why. I don't understand ghosting unless the person is unhinged. They will never say why.

My suspicion is that they are either expecting a hookup at the end of the date (even though I explicitly state that I don't engage in casual sex and that I am looking for a relationship). I've heard men say that they think if you say you don't do casual sex it means the opposite which honestly is really frustrating for someone like me who is repulsed by the thought of casual sex.

Another is they are just acting interested not to be rude. The thing is, is that they will drag the conversation on for hours. Then they will ghost me after wards. A part of me wants to ask them why but then I feel overbearing.

I ask guys out most of the time, so I'm also wondering if it has to do with that. I'm starting think that guys don't want to be approached but would rather be the one that initiates.