Carnivore coworker amazed that we can get along

I have a coworker who is very interested in the fact that I'm vegan. It's not daily, but very often I'll get a "Dude it's so crazy how me, almost carnivore, and you fully vegan can joke around all day and get along" like brother what did you expect me to do? Do these people really see us as this volatile, and how in the world have carnivores labeled themselves the kind and virtuous ones and then whine about vegans allegedly doing the same thing? So much mention of "Oh I'm gonna do it the *right way* and try homesteading, and only eat grass fed beef" and if I even so much as say "Yeah, I suppose that's better than most but I still disagree" I'm met with "WOAH hey buddy, you do you I'll do me right? haha I couldn't go vegan I like steak".

I know the stereotype is Angry Militant Vegans, but if these people see a kind vegan it has to be an exception and not a sign that maybe we aren't crazy after all. How did things get this bad?