Personality soft max + other suggestions?

New to this sub so I'm unsure if I'm using the right terminology. I apologize in advance if I say anything incorrectly or this isn't allowed. My questions are 1) How do you deal with feeling unattractive but not overdoing the soft maxxing? 2) Do you feel like even if you do everything to enhance your looks, that you'll still feel and/or be perceived as unattractive if you don't have a decent personality?

1) Personally, I have low self esteem and am insecure. I"ve been trying to work on this since HS but all the things I do to feel ineffective cuz I feel like I'm not changing or no one is noticing the changes. I change my diet, exercise regularly, found a derm for my acne and use prescribed products, plan on getting monthly facials, and am saving for Invaslign. I don't want to get obsessive but I feel like I have to start exercising like 3 hours a day or hide until I'm pretty. Should I be more intense with the products I use, eat less (trying to stay under 1200 and be aware of macros), start wearing a paper bag outside?

2) Do you think good personality makes you look better? Like a glow or attractiveness from within thing? I'm often told that "confidence is attractive" but I find it hard to feel confident when I feel so ugly and I wonder if it's off-putting. I've been in therapy for a year and half and even my therapist said I'm not where I should be. But I'm trying hard to be different. Also, m a lot of conventionally attractive people are considered desirable, even if they don't have a good personality. Does anyone feel like doing self help, meditation, therapy, etc. is helpful to that? Any suggestions and comments are appreciated.