We're thinking about having the reception 6 days before the wedding...

Is it tacky? We have the perfect venue and date for our very small intimate ceremony and dinner. The perfect venue for the giant party we want is available the week before.

My family and friends are from out of town and we would like to spend a nice quiet weekend with them. The ceremony will have 32 people including us. I would hate for them to fly out and see us for one day.

Our friends and family in town are numerous (150-200) and we want to have a giant celebration--it would not be a thing that the people invited to the ceremony would enjoy.

While we're okay with having this on two different weekends, but would be be in poor taste to have it the weekend before the wedding? The weekend after the wedding would be our second choice, we would need to find a not-perfect venue for it too.