10 weeks to go and no bridesmaids dresses

I got engaged in December of last year, and immediately asked my two sisters to be bridesmaids - truth be told, one of my sisters flat out told me well before the engagement that if they weren’t the bridesmaids, she’d be pissed.

Because both my sisters have very different body types to myself, and I honestly wouldn’t know what would fit well or right, I told my sisters that they could choose whatever style of dress they preferred, as long as it was a shade of a certain colour. I even said I'd be happy with two different dress styles in the same colour - as long as they felt good in them.

I spent 5 months occasionally asking them about what they had seen, what they liked the look of, if they had made a decision. I finally put my foot down in June, telling them that the dresses needed to be selected and bought, as there was only 5 months to go before the wedding (early December),and it would be best to get them sooner, in case of any issues, and also we still needed to organise the boys’ suits, and couldn’t have the vests made without being able to match the colour of the dresses.

My sisters assured me that they had chosen a dress, we had a family dinner where they got measured up and we selected the sizes from the website, and everything was sorted.

Or so I thought. Turns out, they didn’t actually order the dresses until* early this month. I had been wondering what had happened, how long delivery was going to take etc, and was about to ask, when I got a message telling me that the dresses had arrived - let’s have a family dinner, everyone can get together and they can try on the dresses and show them off.

When I arrived that night, they had tried the dresses on before I got there, and then told me that the dresses weren’t right. I get them to put them on, see what the issue is - they’re too long in the waist, the underarms are cutting in, the bust seems to sit a little high. Overall, they aren’t badly made at all - just the wrong shape for my sisters.

Which wouldn’t have been a problem,, had they ordered them back in June when I said, hey guys, it’s only 5 months to the wedding. Because then we would have had time to find and order a different dress.

Now I’m being told by every dress store that it is a minimum of three months for any order - we should just buy off the rack. Which would be fine, if there wasn’t a particular colour that we have to match to now that the boys’ suits and vests have been made, and if my sisters weren’t the body type that they are. I’m having a serious meltdown, because I just don’t know what to do.

I was crying today while one of my sisters, my mother and myself were searching the stores for anything, and I was trying very hard not to just scream at my sister about the whole issue. Mum was trying to step in I guess. I told her that it isn’t just panic I’m feeling. I feel incredibly hurt by this. I asked my sisters to do one thing. And I asked them to do it at a particular time for particular reasons, and they ignored me, and the importance of this particular thing to me. I feel as though I was completely disregarded, and ignored, as though me, my fiancee, and our relationship means next to nothing to them.

Mum told me I was being a bit unfair. I replied that I was trying very hard to be reasonable at this point, but that this is how I feel.

She then told me that one sister had been having some financial difficulties, and that was one of the reasons they hadn’t ordered them sooner. I responded that DF and I would have gladly made the payment ourselves had we known - we just wanted things to be sorted and organised with time to spare, and wouldn’t have worried about paying that bit of money.

I don’t know what to do at this point. And I honestly don’t know if I’m overreacting with my emotions. I’ve always felt somewhat on the outside of the relationship my sisters have with each other - they’re closer in age to each other than to me, and always had their own own thing going on - but I never thought that they’d do something like this. I’m sure is just a thoughtless mistake.

But I’m so angry, and hurt, and I have no idea what to do.

*edit because I missed a word