Post-wedding regrets
To start I want to say that I am happily married and wouldn’t change it for the biggest most elaborate wedding in the world. My husband is the sweetest guy who wanted me to have my dream day and I assured him backwards and forwards that it was.
However, as time has passed (married 4/29/19) I’ve realized how many things I compromised with myself on, and how many things I’m actually fairly upset about how the day went.
To start, I wore a prom dress. It was a beautiful navy blue ball gown with a bridal belt sewn on. It was the last dress I tried on in the first (and only) store I looked. I love it in my pictures most of the time, but I feel sad that I didn’t try harder to find an actual wedding gown. It’s hard watching friends get married and be the vision in white that I always imagined, when I should be happy that my dress was beautiful and unique, and exactly what I believe I wanted.
Second was my pictures. I went to art school and pictures were always the biggest part of the wedding for me. We hired a friend from school who has several years experience in the wedding space and a super unique style that I love. Most of the pictures I adore, he was able to capture the pure laughter and love of the day very well. But, there were many poses he used that were extremely unflattering, and I have about 1/3 of my pictures of just my groom and his groomsmen friends. I got 0 pictures of myself with my girls and maybe 4 pictures of just me and my dress. Also I have 0 pictures of myself with just my mom. I blame myself for not paying attention, but the photographer should know to get a picture of the bride with her mom right?
The rest of the day was almost perfect. At the end of the day, I’m married to an amazing man and I’m so happy to be married, but I’m pretty damn sad sometimes when I think about the day. And I feel super ungrateful and spoiled when I get in that mood.
I’m not sure what I’m looking for here. Assurance that this is normal? A kick in the pants that I should be happy with the beautiful pictures I have and the beautiful day I had? Thanks for reading this vent fest if you made it through.
TL;DR I’m a wife with some disappointments about her wedding earlier this year. Just looking to vent I think.