Unpopular Opinion: "I wasn't the girl that grew up dreaming of her wedding."

There's no such thing as THE girl who grows up dreaming of her wedding. This is a caricature propped up by patriarchy as a part of its painting of the landscape of frivolous femininity, like the girl that plays with barbie dolls, the girl that likes dresses, the girl that goes gaga over jewelry. These girls exist, among a million other girls, with varying degrees of passion for some of these things, and these hobbies don't define them. I don't remember whether I grew up fantasizing nonstop about my own wedding -- I never wanted marriage -- but weddings have flowers and pretty dresses and cake so hell yeah I think it's fun to see them. Does that make me "THE girl that grew up fantasizing about a wedding"? I don't know, I think we're mostly somewhere in between. We're multifaceted, and we're not one caricature versus another.

Like men and boys, who coincidentally never describe themselves as this, women are more diverse and dynamic than wedding dreamer girl vs tomboy coolgirl. I know most people don't MEAN to tear down other women when they say this but I dream of a day when we can talk about how we are overwhelmed and lost and dislike event planning without going into I'm Not Like The Other Girls.

Trigger Warning flair for internalized misogyny.

ETA: I thought it was clear but in case it wasn't: it's ok to say "I never thought about my wedding". The NotLikeOtherGirls comes in when you say "I wasn't THAT girl who etc." Cuz you're literally putting other women in a box when you say that. Even if that's not your focus, using that phrase creates/reinforces the idea of THAT caricature girl. In other words: NotLikeThatGirl.

And those of you going down the thread downvoting everyone who's not insulting anyone but just saying they agree and feel heard and seen, you're really telling on yourselves here.