How many of us suffered thru some despicable behavior by family members during and

after our ordeal? I'll start off with my experiences.

My stepson and his wife were absolute shits during my late wife's last few months. His reaction after I called him at 3:30am and she had her 2nd and final seizure 2 days before she died, he went back to sleep and went to work? He lived only 45 minutes away. Before that he and his wife were able to take 6 days off to go to music fest in Louisville and she die died less than 3 weeks later. I begged for help, some weekend coverage, I begged for help around the house and the yard and got 4 hours on one Sunday afternoon. I have nothing to do with either if them since she died. I have more on this relationship and their failure with my late wife another time.

My own brother failed me. He came over from Kansas City to be with me for support the day before my wife died and was in the room when she took her last breath. He was 74 years old at the time and apparently never been in a death watch, watch a person die or seen a dead person before, unknown to me. The night after she died he proceeded to be drunk by 5pm (on my top shelf bourbon of course) and I was unaware of his drinking as I was cleaning up our bedroom from the hospice stuff leaving. At 6:30 he lost it with a physical and verbal attack on me that last 2.5 hours. A complete emotional meltdown. Next day he acted like nothing happen, never apologize. Still a year later never apologized and I simply will have nothing to do with him. We never had a blow up ever in our 50yr long adult friendship. I have more details on later situations to say later.

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I have talked with 2 other widows who experienced some similar behavior by family, including their own kids who they have nothing to do with anymore. I just wonder if others have seen it or is just my luck in life?