Dating and children, a possible observation or not

I am a widower. My children were 12 and 16 when my wife passed and I chose the Mr. Mom path in lieu of dating. They are adults now and I have since dated. They have been cool with women I have met but no one serious. But I wonder if I dodged a bullet ..

We're Jewish and tradition is you start dating ASAP after your spouse passes. I tried, my wife wanted me to, but after a year of bring mentally out after she passed, decided to be dad until they were adults

Decades ago my widowed aunt got together with her second husband about a year after their spouses passed. Her children were fine with it, his were not.

More recently, my older cousin lost his wife about 18 months ago. He has since met someone. My daughter and I went to a sedar at his home this weekend. It was mostly her family while his children/grandchildren who do not live at home were not there.

That said I have a friend my age who met his second wife a few years after his first wife passed and his blended then teen family seems to be doing well which makes me wonder if I was too cautious

I don't really have a question but just wondering if adult children have an issue with thier fathers moving on too quickly after their mother passes or am I just reading too much into this?