Suggested to coworker to ask for a raise, she later implied that I only care about the money.

I work in IT and someone in management gave me off the record advice and told me to ask for a raise, don't wait for a review because the budget will be allocated. I told my coworker this, who u knew before she got hired. She said she wouldn't know how to approach it and fears her managers reaction.

Anyway, fast forward, she gets a personal project at work, a great opportunity and I'm happy for her. (More on this later)

I work in IT support. At our job, we have tiers but they don't come with raises as of now, but management informed me they're looking to change it to incentivize people to stay with the company and move up another tier. I mention when the time comes to get promoted to a different tier, I hope we get a raise.

My coworker then says she notices i talk about raises a lot and if money what motivates me. She then says as a new grad employee she should prioritize growth over DEMANDING a salary increase. Her example was if she turned down the personal project because it didn't come with a raise she would be shooting herself in the foot.

A), I never suggested she ask for a raise for a project. I never said she should demand a raise for the project. I only suggested she ask for a raise before our annual review period months earlier.

B ) I never suggested chasing money. I do believe in advocating for yourself at work and try to get the best dollar you can get while keeping your options open but I would never suggest turning down opportunities at work because they didn't come with a pay raise associated with this.

C) I turned down jobs that offered more money because the job I have now offers great work life balance,upwards mobility, free continuing education, and pay for my bachelor's degree should I want to pursue one, thus setting me up better in the long run.

So it threw me off guard and I was offended.

I told her, I often talk about opportunities and impact but you choose to focus on me talking about raises and explained my reasoning. She apologized but I just don't know how a statement "I hope we get a raise" turns into "you only care about money and you will turn down opportunities if raises aren't associated with it. "

Completely making up a false narrative and twisting my words. I'll never discuss pay at work again.