My boss is like a bad boyfriend

OMG I need someone to talk to and my husband just isn’t cutting it.

My boss is horrible! He is in his late 40s and he has never had a small children in his life (he has a stepson who was 12ish when he met his mom).

I have been traveling for work for 10 years, and I have been working for him for 2 years. He will literally tell me I need travel one week before I leave. These are not urgent trips, he just does not plan ahead and decides last minute that I should be there. I have never had a boss do this. It is crazy to me. Additionally, he guilts to be careful with our travel budget. Fuck me! This guy drinks like a fish. I am not exaggerating he drinks 12 glasses of whiskey a night. I feel like he wants me to conserve budget so he gets to drink more. He just told me it will be the first week of May. I guess he gave me a little extra time.

He will constantly say, I am here to help let me know if you need anything. Then he will turn around and hand me a bunch of action items. Today I have my one on one with him. Btw I run a giant project for him and he has not idea where we are at and I am over my head in water most days. I have been working to create standard repeatable processes. Today he comes in and tells me that we need to do a one off process for this group. Then for the next 30 minutes we banter back and forth as to why creating a one off process is messy and it will be really hard to audit. We get to the end of it and I say ok if you want a one off process can you work with their team to work it out and document it because I don’t have the bandwidth to work on it right now. Option 2, we can use the standard process and kick the can down the road for a while until it can be revisited. You could feel the smoke come out of his ears. He then used his default answer, can you send me an email with this information. WTF, we just spent 30 minutes talking about it. Now you need an email from me. Then he just hands it off to my coworker. BTW if I send him something like this in email he will literally reply back with “Let’s discuss this in our next meeting”. What a waste of time.

Topics that I think should take 10 minutes tops take 30 minutes or more to discuss. I literally don’t have enough time in the day. It is his way or the highway but he isn’t fully involved to understand. He uses his seniority to beat the life out of me. I am exhausted, I work soooo many hours. He is literally never happy and is just a completely absent boss except when is there to add work to my plate.

I went to the doctor in Oct because I was getting massive headaches everyday. She determined they were from stress. Last month she gave me a perception for anxiety. I have not started it yet because I know it is the environment I am working in that is causing it.

I recently applied for another role. I just got told I made it to the second round of interviews. Wish me luck, I am figuratively counting down the days until I don’t have to work for him anymore. I just want to break up.

Thanks for reading of you made it this far. Would love you hear your stories or comments. Love you all!