Husband pushing for me to be SAHM…

But isn’t looking for a higher paying job and the onus would be on me to keep some kind of income to keep our current lifestyle. We would have to strictly budget, not take vacations which we love to do, forgo renovations that we’ve been discussing since we bought our house 5 years ago. I don’t know that these are sacrifices I’m willing to make. He keeps sending me TikToks of people making all this money from home devoting minimal time. They’re basically “be an influencer” or total scam.

Don’t get me wrong I would love to be home with my children (22 months, and another due at the end of august) a lot more and be able to feel sort of caught up on housework. But I also need to still do something for myself that keeps me feeling successful and gives me worth beyond just being a mother. I would like to devote time to building my own business of being a personal shopper/stylist but this would take a lot of time to really be successful. I have about 4 months of maternity leave coming up but I don’t think I can truly focus on anything in that time beyond my baby and toddler.

Idk what I’m looking for here…. Advice? Commiseration? Anyone else in a similar position?

ETA for context: I don’t love my job. I have a long commute 3 days a week and I hate my company and am dreading going back after my leave but I don’t want to find another similar job in my field. I’m over it and would rather at least just stay put where I’m at least “comfortable”. But overall would love to move on to my next phase.