My husband says it's my fault he never gets a break because I...
Make plans on the weekends for the kids.
We're both feeling pretty burnt out these days. We haven't had a night away from the kids (5 + 2) in about 5 months and feeling it. My parents are our only sitter, and due to reasons, some within their control and some not, they haven't been able to watch them. I am trying to find another sitter but they're all very very expensive.
My husband and I got into it the other day because he was being pretty mean to the kids and I got mad at him about it. He says he's burnt out, I tell him to take a break! Plan a day, leave and go do stuff. Just let me know ahead of time and I'll figure it out. I've been telling him this for the past year and he never does it.
You know what he says to me? He says it's my fault he never takes a break because I'm always planning stuff on the weekends and then he can't go anywhere or do anything because I've already locked him into a plan.
Ladies this is total bullshit and let me tell you why. I am not planning long haul overnight trips, full day itineraries or anything with a major purchase that forces us to be committed to it. I plan simple half day type outings with the kids like, farmer's market, berry picking at a local farm, playground, splash pad, low key nature walk at the state park 10 min away etc. All within a 20min drive and usually in the morning to tire them out for nap. If I don't and we just stay home the kids get stir crazy and we both get grumpy about the chaos. So even when I'm feeling lazy and not wanting to do anything, I still try to find 1 thing we can do each morning to make the rest of the day smoother.
Apparently this is THE reason he never makes his own plans. Because I'm always telling him what the plan is and he can "never" make his own? Like you're fucking welcome!!!? I'm making sure the kids get out of the house for a bit and either get some exercise or a new experience. And he wants to complain. Total bull. Just make a plan and let me know and I will take them! I always say this, and he never follows through. I guess I didn't realize going to the farmers market was a major commitment that he can't miss.... /s
Anyway, this is mostly a vent because that was the dumbest shit I've heard in a while. Overall my husband does his fair share of childcare, it really is equal. The problem is that it's just us and we're tired. And also that he says dumb crap like this sometimes. Ungrateful smh